The Idea of True Love

Marriage is a sacred courtship that must not be taken lightly. It seems that holy matrimony was revered more so back in the olden days rather than nowadays. My grandparents were married for over fifty years and had a mentality that divorce was never even an option. Once you make that vow and commitment then there is no turning back my friends, it is until death do us part. It seems as though that even if couples didn’t have the most intimate of relationships back then, then they still made it work out regardless. My Aunt and Uncle are a perfect example to me when it comes to a non-intimate relationship.

As far back as I can remember I have never once seen them display any form of physical affection or closeness. I would think to myself, how do they continue on like this if they don’t ever hug and kiss or show any signs of love towards each other? As I got older, I had realized that they just make it work even though it looks and feels stale. I also came to the conclusion that they probably express their love for each other in their own personal type of ways when others aren’t around. It appears that they have the mentality that says “Oh well, I’m stuck with this person, we might as well just put up with each other forever”. If I didn’t know them personally and I was an outsider looking in then I would probably wonder why they don’t seek out any marital help.

But however, because I know how they are they, I know that they are happy in their unhappiness. There are several different relatives from both sides of my family who have always seemed to be stagnating in their abilities to show affection and love towards their spouses.  It seems very strange to me how people can continue living together like this without at least taking a swing at a marriage fitness program or trying to seek out some kind of marital guidance.

Luckily, most, if not all, of my aunt’s and uncles are still together and have been married for as long as I can remember, even if they aren’t the happiest of couples. Well, I guess you can never force someone into getting help if they personally don’t feel like they want or need help anyways. In today’s society it seems that a lot of people are going through marriages like they’re going through socks…This pair is all dirty and has holes, so I’m just going to get a new pair…and on goes the cycle.

Marriage is a lot of hard work if you want to be happy. My advice to any couples who is in the beginning stages of a relationship is to save marriage until you both believe whole-heartedly that you will want to be together forever. Make sure you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the person you are with will fight for you until the ends of time, and know for a fact that this is the person who would do everything in his or her power to stop divorce from ever entering the equation.

If you truly and genuinely believing that this person is the one for you and you want to go ahead and take the plunge then be ready for trials and tribulation my friends. Most of all don’t be afraid to seek out marriage counseling or a marriage fitness program to help keep you grounded. My motto is you must know who you are first before bringing someone in and making a part of your own life. It really is quite interesting to me to see how there has been such a dramatic change in today’s society’s divorce rate as opposed to the divorce rate in the 1960’s, 50’s, 40’s and 30’s…Well, you get the picture.